Tuesday 10 December 2013

The L2 Effect ...Unlimited !


For all the innumerable learnings that I have got from Life , this seemed the apt title for a blog post after a long hiatus . Just the other day as I was sifting through the pages of an inflight magazine, I read something that altered the way I felt about meditation ! “Most of us think about meditation as being complicated and time consuming . Not really ! It is nothing but simply being fully aware of something and concentrating on that – be it the barking of a dog , the sound of a fan or the movement of your breath “

 
This was really simple I thought, as the author went on to say that one must keep the spine and neck straight while we absorb the sights and sounds around us . In my yoga class the next day, I was definitely more relaxed and did not try hard to ward off the avalanche of thoughts that were being hurled at, in my mind. I just let them be and succumbed to the L2 learning of the day !; L2 being Life’s Lessons J
 

Have you ever noticed in the airport, at the security check , the CISF personnel do flash a smile as they beckon you for the frisking process. Yes , it’s nothing but  a routine job for them and a drudgery for those of us  who constantly travel. But the moment even one of them flashes  a broad smile and thanks me  for allowing them to do their job, it makes me feel so much happier ! This might not be a common sight but the fact that even one among them makes an effort to do so , makes all the difference to me, and it teaches me to smile at my customers even if it is through a phone call !

 
Till last December , the date 16th was to look forward to surprises, gifts , loads of love and blessings , but 2012 Dec altered it completely . The untimely death of my daughter’s close friend in a car accident and the Nirbhaya incident in Delhi on the same date, tainted 16th Dec ! But soon, it made me realise that on every birth date , there are sad and horrific incidents that are bound to take place and there is no stopping it ! This  L2 learning filled me with a strange sense of calmness difficult to explain. And a couple of weeks later, when my daughter asked me “ Ma , can we celebrate your birthday today ? , I gave her a tight hug and said yes ! That day we just celebrated the feeling of being together , the fact that it was not my birthday didn’t matter at all !

 
Just this morning , I had the good fortune to see a Marathi film “Astu – so be it “ which is a story revolving a father who loses his memory and wanders off . His relationship with his daughter who looks after him is engulfed in many a flux and the film connected with me in more ways than one ! There is a line in the film when the daughter says that the children can serve their parents only till the crematorium …how true ! When they are around, we don’t seem to have much time for them as we are also busy with our own lives ! The biggest L2 learning that I have had is never to multitask specially with regard to your parents ! I used to put my amma on speaker phone at nights and have my chats with her while I went about the chores in the kitchen. Little did I realise that I was not giving her a 100% audience and that she always had to repeat herself the next day to me on the same topic ! How I yearn for those conversations now !
 

I could go on and on but it is true that every episode in my life has left me with a positive L2 effect and here’s hoping to many more chapters which will hopefully make me a better human being !

 

Friday 8 February 2013

Some days you just have to create your own sunshine !


It’s amazing how a title like the above can make you think inversely.

 
Being sick is not something that one enjoys, but when the frequency is on the rise, it slows you down and hurts your morale! Suddenly, as you peep into the never ending list of pills , you wonder why you seem to have become an easy target of the neighbourhood Pharmacy’s new releases !
 

That notwithstanding, thoughts like, “oh I have so much to do but I don’t have the energy”, “why me”, “have not harmed anyone” -  the list is endless. It’s obvious that these are the thoughts arising off an idle, tired mind!
 

So what’s the best potion ? That’s when this title caught my eye -  “some days you have to create your own sunshine “. I decided that the switch from  feeling tired and hopeless to becoming energetic had to first happen in my mind ! And believe it or not, the mind was instantly programmed with a feverish urgency  to get better ASAP ! Creating my own sunshine became top priority with spreading some cheer around , listening to some good music and of course, doing anything and everything that made me smile :-)

 
It all boils down to the fact that no one can beat you-  no illness, no sickness - if you have the ability to smile through !
 

Easier said than done, but it’s incredible that the moment the conscious switch is made,  everything moves swiftly. Swiftly towards positivity with renewed energy all around,  and not to mention it is  100% contagious !

 
It really is worth creating our own sunshine on days when there is a sudden dearth of warmth within oneself. And guess what? The effect is pure, unadulterated bliss !